Indigo Parents “I have always known my son was different. He wouldn't conform to anything from preschool to eating. He has this incredible need for control of his own destiny. Everything was an argument and I was losing……” The above quote was taken from one of the hundreds of emails I receive from parents and educators looking to find answers or share their experiences. A glimpse into the lives of others often provides us with our own answers. I read the letter and realized that… Yes, Indigo Children are here to change the world. Yes, they are peaceful warriors. Yes, they are movers and shakers and system busters. But what about us…. their parents? We are Indigo Parents. We are impacting the world; in the front lines busting the system and paving new paths. Our children are already working through us to change the world. Regardless of their age, they are changing the planet one heart and one parent at a time. We, their unsuspecting parents have become their warriors. We have become the system busters, the movers and shakers. How many of us are changing the world through books, workshops and new schools with open philosophies? How many of us have embraced the world of holistic health thanks to our children’s low tolerance to traditional medicine? How many of us realize that we are Indigo Parents? An exhausted but fearless group, we reach across continents in search of answers to help our children. In honor of Indigo Parents and with the permission of the writer I am sharing the letter I received so that perhaps you too can see yourself in a different light. Enjoy! Dear Lori, I have always known my son was different and at first was stressed that he wouldn't conform to anything from preschool to eating. Everything was an argument and I was losing. I had him tested by a child psychologist at age 4 and was told he was highly intelligent and possibly ADHD. By age 6 he was officially diagnosed and began medication. But before that happened I eased up, gave him more choices, kept things normal and gave him more breathing space. I took the fights away by giving choices and making him responsible for his decisions; for good or bad. This suited him just fine and he had this remarkable ability to make everything good. He has this incredible need for control of his own destiny. I've been very blessed this year with an incredible teacher for his 2nd grade year. She sees his uniqueness and appreciates it for what it is. She told me " I hope you realize he is brighter than you or I, his ability to think outside the box is amazing, I've never taught anyone like him" She truly understands him and gives him the space he needs. She helps him to conform just enough to be acceptable. He loves school even though he is different because she lets him be and truly thinks he is wonderful. In a society that demands conformity and squishes out individuality this is a wonderful change. I own a Preschool Child Development Center that now completely believes in self- development and learning individually, nonconforming and positive self-esteem through every possible avenue. This is what my wonderful 8 year old son has given me. I've changed my philosophy of education from memorization to truly understanding and absorbing. The most important part of preschool learning is the ability to know how to learn in non-stressful, hands on way. Developing children's sense of self-worth and self-esteem gives them the strongest of foundations possible. These children fear nothing and believe everything is achievable. These children are our future and they won't fear crossing the line to reach any goal. By adding communication and balance from home nothing is unimaginable. My in-laws gave me a book of alternative solutions to ADHD medications. This motivated me to seek out a well known holistic healer. When we spoke I felt like I was being interviewed. She wanted to know how we disciplined and what our outlook was on the child we had been given. When I explained that my son was wonderful and that we nurtured his views and appreciated his uniqueness I must have past the test. She then told me about the Indigo Children and wanted to know if I had ever heard about them. I told her no and that I would go on line and research it. I instantly came to your website and found my son. I did the questionnaire and got 19 yes's. I found the missing piece to the puzzle. I knew from the beginning that I was given a special child for a reason and at the end of a long day I would tell myself “He will change the world someday.” I guess without realizing it I have surrounded our family with people who appreciate and support our beliefs. Other people tend to tell us we let are children have too much freedom or choices and we are creating spoiled brats. I have always believed in nurturing and supporting. Respecting our children’s needs and trying to meet them in order to create confidence and security within the family and themselves. Everybody needs support, nurturing and love to be truly balanced and to be able to give it back. I believe it does take a village to raise a child and everyone is better because of it. No one person's view or opinions are best; it is combinations that create harmony. “I believe parenting never stops, it just changes with time.” Janelle… an Indigo Parent “And I believe that times are changing thanks to Indigo Parents that never stop believing in their children.” Lori Lite…

 

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